“The Smell of Loss”

“The Smell of Loss”

Normally I post about fragrance on or around Fridays, in my weekly “Fragrance Friday” blog post. But this weekend’s New York Times had such a stunning, beautiful op-ed piece, The Smell of Loss, that I just had to share it.

The first time it happens is a dark winter’s afternoon, not quite a year after her death. I’m at my desk working, and there it suddenly is: sharp, glassy-green, with that faint, musky undertone that catches at the back of your throat.

I recognize it instantly: the scent that hung in our hall every time she came to supper. The perfume that clung to her coat, her scarves, detectable sometimes for hours on my babies’ hair after she’d been carrying and kissing them.

That first time, it’s a shock. Her perfume is something I’ve long forgotten (in her final months, mostly bedridden, she was beyond all that). But here it is — absolute and definite and quite overpowering.

The author, Julie Myerson, is describing the signature fragrance of her beloved, deceased mother-in-law, which she starts smelling at unexpected moments, for minutes at a time, with no apparent source such as clothing. She consults experts:

I email Jay A. Gottfried, a neuroscientist who runs the Gottfried Laboratory at Northwestern University, which investigates the links between brain activity and sensory perception.

Professor Gottfried tells me that what I describe is known in his business as “phantosmia” or “phantom smells.” The sense of smell, he says, is our most ancient, primal sense and has “intimate and direct control over emotional and behavioral states.”

You really have to read the rest of this article, it is wonderful. Enjoy! Have you ever experienced this phenomenon?

Illustration: Aidan Koch, for The New York Times

Fragrance Friday: A Reclusive Perfumer

Fragrance Friday: A Reclusive Perfumer

This week’s Fragrance Friday is more about the perfumer than the perfume. I bought a coffret of Lollia eaux de parfums at Anthropologie, a limited edition “wardrobe” of three fragrances by Margot Elena, who is also the creator of TokyoMilk and other brands. I was curious to find out more about her, and found an intriguing interview she gave to Sephora: Character Study: Margot Elena. One of my favorite quotes from the article:

Fragrance is alive and the most intimate “accessory” we can select. It is never the same scent on any two people, and it is never the same exact fragrance from day to day based on the interaction with one’s body chemistry. Is there any art that is more intimate and beautiful than that?

The packaging of the set is lovely too, designed by RedGrackle (whose photo is featured).

I was also intrigued by the names of the eaux de parfums: I Can Still Smell the Rain, Velvet As Night, and Another Quiet Day. I haven’t tried them other than in the store, but will share my thoughts once I have. If you have tried them or other Lollia scents, please share comments, below!

Friday Favorites — W.S. Merwin

One of my favorite poets.

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Oh my gosh!!! I bet I’ve looked at 50 New Year’s poems that left me feeling like… well… like January 1st — as cold inside as out! But I finally settled on one that at least left me feeling a LITTLE hopeful! (eyes roll off my Tablemate and onto the carpet — now I have to clean up THAT mess as well as potato chips, veggies, cheese, summer sausage, wine bottles… Yes. We made a mess watching Godzilla last night. One of my favorite movies. It was a toss up between that and Pacific Rim… 😮 😀 )

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W.S. Merwin

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(born September 30, 1927) is an American poet, credited with over fifty books of poetry, translation andprose. During the 1960s anti-war movement, Merwin’s unique craft was thematically characterized by indirect, unpunctuated narration. In the 1980s and 1990s, Merwin’s writing influence derived from his interest…

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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!

This is my first New Year’s Day as a blogger. Thank you to all of you who read Serenity Now occasionally or regularly — I have loved becoming part of your community! Best wishes to all for a happy, serene New Year.

Photo: http://www.telegraph.co.uk

What Went Well: Happy New Year!

A lot of things can go well in the week between Christmas and New Year’s. Top three:

  1. Christmas! Because.
  2. We had a wonderful family gathering with cousins. Because even in all of our busy lives, we try to maintain connection especially around the holidays.
  3. I have been able to work from home this week, and I cherish just being able to be in the house while the kids are around. Because I am lucky to have a job that offers some flexibility.

I hope you all have had wonderful holidays, a merry Christmas if you celebrate it, and a happy soon-to-be New Year!

Merry Christmas!

I love The Perfume Magpie’s illustrations (and blog) so much, I just had to share this one!

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Another year is nearly complete. It has been a different and interesting year for me. It was filled with so many “firsts”. Each day, I learned new ways to look at things and new ways to navigate through. Some were challenging but some were brilliant and exciting. If I were to pick one quote to capture the essence of my 2015, it would be this:
“We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open.” – Jawaharlal Nehru

Thank you for visiting The Perfume Magpie and always leaving encouraging and lovely comments. Wherever you are and whatever you are doing over Christmas, I’m wishing you that your days are filled with love and joy.  I’m…

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Fragrance Friday: Christmas

Fragrance Friday: Christmas

This Christmas was the first since I embraced the pursuit and understanding of fragrance as a hobby, and my nice family rose to the occasion! In addition to the early gift of Penhaligon’s Blasted BloomFragrance Friday: Blasted Bloom, I was given several other beautiful scents. I’ll save those for later Fragrance Friday posts! The most fun I had, though, was that my three children (two teenagers and one young adult) suggested that they too would like to receive some fragrance! Continue reading

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.

And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.

And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.

For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.

And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.

And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,

Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.

Fragrance Friday: Blasted Bloom

Fragrance Friday: Blasted Bloom

Well, he’s done it again. My nice husband turns out to have an instinct for choosing wonderful perfume on my behalf and this time, he brought home a brand new scent from London for me: Penhaligon’s Blasted Bloom. What my husband had no way of knowing is that the nose behind Blasted Bloom is the legendary Alberto Morillas — who also created another perfume he brought me from his travels, which I love: Fragrance Friday: Custo Barcelona L’Eau. Morillas has also created several others I like, such as Estee Lauder’s Pleasures and Bvlgari’s Omnia Coral and Omnia Indian Garnet.

From Penhaligon’s website: “Illuminating the freshness of wild flora found along the dramatic British coast, Blasted Bloom captures a free-spirited landscape where the energy and majesty of the Sea meets the natural richness of the Land. The mineral purity of an aquatic accord meets the fruity sparkle of wild berries and the sensation of hand-crushed green leaves. Wild floral heart of eglantine rose and hawthorn is tinted with pink pepper. A whisper of Clearwood™ is enveloped in balmy cedarwood, on a smooth bed of moss and musks.” Continue reading

What Went Well

During Advent, I remember many blessings, but since this is “What Went Well Wednesday” and my practice is to list three, I’ll stick with that!

  1. This one is huge: my daughter was accepted last night, early decision, by her first choice college! Because she has worked hard in school, stayed focused on her studies, and is all ’round terrific!
  2. My oldest comes home from college tonight and we can’t wait. Just because!
  3. The weather is so spring-like this week that the roses are still blooming and I even saw some confused forsythia starting to blossom. Because? I have no idea but I’m enjoying it.

Please share what went well for you in the comments; I am finding this to be a very helpful mindfulness practice.